“Banyana ba tricky” – Friendships 101

Everybody needs someone sometimes, for shopping, eating chocolate, dancing, gossiping, watching videos, getting groomed and going on holidays.. Who best than a FRIEND. Friends hang around you because you are kind, funny, intelligent and honest – so don’t become a bitch with an attitude problem and expect them to go along with it. Be genuinely nice and the mates worth having will surely stick around – for the long haul

 The one rule of etiquette is: treat others the way you would like to be treated.  For lasting friendships, just be a gnuinely cool companion- SIMPLE. Communicate with your friend to avoid misunderstandings. I have observed people cling to friendships that aren’t even good for them to fit in and for fear of being alone to say a few. They then resort to not telling their friends what’s bothers them in the union to avoid “ruining the friendship.  They stick around or vent on the third person next thing “banyana ba tricky” I believe the one that utters these words is tricky. If she is so your friend why don’t you tell her of what you are unhappy about?  Just a thought 🙂 


Part of what Refined Image does is coach on proper etiquette – How to get right in every situation. That being said, I will share a few tips on friendship commandments


  1. Pick friends who make you feel good about yourself
  2. A jealous friend will never be an honest friend
  3. Trust your instincts .if a person genuinely likes you, you’ll know.
  4. New friends are as valuable as old friends, for different reasons.
  6. Respect the fact that your friends have different priorities from yours.
  7. On stew on an argument on crossword – sort it out.
  8. Don’t forget a friend’s birthday.
  9. Ring your friend if something big is happening in their life. Even its for one minute.
  10. Use your friends for support, but don’t overburden them. Everyone has limits  and their own lives to get on with.


No one likes to be thought of as rude, ill-mannered or ignorant. So be the one friend everyone wants to have.


The commandments from – Sarah Ivens; (2003) A Modern Girl’s Guide to Etiquette